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Nov 29, 2016

Mission #40

On Board: Sarah Michael
Mission: How to be Authentic in your Videos, Branding and Marketing

The Co-Pilot:

This time on Stellar Life, we have the absolute pleasure of hearing from the lovely Sarah Michael. Sarah works with spiritual entrepreneurs ready to do both inner and outer work. As the founder of Sparkling Results Coaching and the creator of Project: YOU, she guides clients toward creating a business that does good and feels good.

In this conversation, Sarah emphasizes the importance of being authentic -- and sets a wonderful example. She’s warm, engaging, and utterly herself as she walks us through women’s deepest motivations, how to come to peace with your inner cavewoman, and the best ways to communicate your message.

Connect With Sarah Michael:

Sparkling Results Coaching
Sarah Michael on Facebook
Project: YOU
Talk With Sarah

The Mission Log:

  • [04:08] - Sarah gives us an introduction to who she is. We hear about her experience in marketing and branding, and her specialty -- what she calls “the intangible of the intangibles.”
  • [06:18] - Most of Sarah’s work is with women, because she focuses on how feminine survival instincts show up in business. She describes how ingrained neural pathways shape women’s desires.
  • [08:41] - “Masculine and feminine” are different from “male and female” or “men and women,” and Sarah talks about why. She then explains that the masculine urge is to protect and provide, as opposed to the feminine desire to connect.
  • [10:26] - Sarah digs further into the differences between what constitutes safety for the masculine and feminine.
  • [11:11] - We learn more about Project: YOU, which Sarah started after noticing that people didn’t see all of her or her work until there was already a connection. It emerged from a self-imposed authenticity challenge.
  • [14:34] - Sarah talks about posting videos herself, this time emphasizing the importance of discernment.
  • [17:35] - Orion and Sarah talk about the possibility of oversharing, with Sarah advising that you be careful of your details and make sure your posts and videos make sense to others. The specific advice she gives is “Don’t tell the story until you’ve stopped bleeding.”
  • [19:38] - Does Sarah generally have an outline for her video, or does she just talk from the heart? It’s a combination, she reveals. She emphasizes authenticity, which means not scripting or memorizing things.
  • [23:50] - Is it better to talk faster or slower in your videos? Sarah emphasizes that it’s better to speak more slowly, and gives an explanation of the science behind the reason this is important. She and Orion then debate whether to speak more or less quickly when presenting your offer.
  • [28:11] - Sarah explains what she thinks are the biggest challenges that her community’s members in general face. First is the inner problem of not letting oneself “be enough,” second is the challenge of describing what they do in a way that others immediately understand, and third is having taken lots of training and courses, and having lots of marketing materials that don’t necessarily work together.
  • [30:38] - How do you get over self doubts? Sarah speaks specifically to the feminine in her answer. Her answer involves creating a safe space, and she elaborates on what this safe space may be.
  • [34:00] - Sarah talks about the possibility of declaring yourself safe. Orion responds, exploring how important it is to women to feel safe. This leads to more discussion of the differences between men and women.
  • [37:47] - What are Sarah’s tips on refining your message?  Her biggest tip is to use what she describes as “vivid words.” These are words that paint a picture in the other person’s head as close as possible to what you mean. She gives some specific examples of abstract versus concrete words.
  • [40:20] - Orion asks if Sarah means simplifying things in a way that a five-year-old would understand. Sarah clarifies, and she and Orion discuss the words Orion uses for what she does.
  • [42:16] - We hear Sarah’s explanation of how people can refine their message. She says you need to identify what your clients believe their needs are, and then address those in all of your messages.
  • [44:45] - How does Sarah build and nourish her community? She talks about the importance of receiving, as well as giving.
  • [45:32] - The craziest thing Sarah has ever done is having gotten her belly button pierced at 24, with no forethought or planning. It was completely unlike her to jump into something like that without knowing what she was getting into. In response, Orion shares her own belly button piercing story.
  • [48:26] - When asked about the best thing that’s ever happened to her, Sarah has a hard time coming up with just one! She settles on going to Loral Langemeier’s 3 Days to Cash workshop, which she describes as a safe space.
  • [51:10] - Sarah gives us her three top tips for living a stellar life: 1. Know what you want your stellar life to look like. 2. Develop, cultivate, and nurture relationships that will get you there. 3. Be yourself! Be as much of yourself as possible, in all situations.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

What would a self-imposed authenticity challenge look like for you? Think of a few examples, and then work toward implementing them and living more authentically.

Look into Sarah’s Project: YOU. If it sounds like something that might work for you, sign up and participate wholeheartedly in the three-week process.

“Don’t tell the story until you’ve stopped bleeding.” If you’re thinking about sharing something publicly, check whether you’re still bleeding. If so, don’t share it yet.

Links and Resources:

Sparkling Results Coaching
Sarah Michael on Facebook
Project: YOU
Talk With Sarah
Neural pathways
Loral Langemeier
3 Days to Cash

Nov 22, 2016

Mission #39

On Board: JP Sears
Mission: Awaken With JP- The Ultra Spiritual Guru

The Co-Pilot:

“The heart and soul of all my work is helping people to help themselves,” JP Sears informs us. Perhaps best-known for his “Ultra Spiritual” series on YouTube, JP is far more than just another internet comedian. He’s a successful and effective emotional healing coach (with infinitely more genuine kindness and empathy than the self-centered and oblivious character he plays on YouTube).

In today’s episode, we learn about who JP really is. It becomes clear that his YouTube videos aren’t in fact mockery of the beliefs his character holds; instead, they’re him practicing a form of non-attachment to his own beliefs. He gently and humorously explores the importance of being exactly who you are, choosing vulnerability, and letting yourself shine.

Connect With JP:

AwakenWIthJP on Facebook
YouTube
@AwakenWithJP on Twitter
AwakenWithJP on Instagram

The Mission Log:

  • [04:24] - JP starts things off by telling us a bit about himself.
  • [06:02] - The most spiritual experience JP has ever had is living his life unapologetically, he explains.
  • [08:52] - What does JP do to allow himself to be himself? In his answer, he reflects on Orion’s story as well as his own past.
  • [12:07] - When JP was growing up, he didn’t have specific role models. As a child, he looked up to various pro athletes. In hindsight, he liked “watching people express their greatness.” As an adult, his first real role model was Paul Chek of the C.H.E.K Institute.
  • [13:24] - JP explains what drew him to Paul.
  • [14:53] - We hear about JP’s perspective on what an “alpha male” is. He and Orion then discuss the difference between the traditional views of alpha males and the contemporary alpha male.
  • [17:25] - What’s the craziest thing JP has ever done? After some musing over the question, he concludes that saying yes feels like the craziest thing.
  • [19:54] - Orion takes a turn and shares the craziest things that she’s done. She and JP then discuss her experience in moving to Japan, and what profoundness she got from it.
  • [22:04] - JP responds to being asked whether he has any phobias by saying he has a phobia of having phobias. He then goes on to give a more serious answer.
  • [23:26] - Orion asks JP what he would take from his house if it were on fire and he only had time to grab three things. Coincidentally, it turned out he had to evacuate his house the day before. His answers are his dog Zephyr, his computer, and his video camera.
  • [24:53] - JP explores the concept of being attached to non-attachment. He also explains how this is how he balances making the types of videos he does with his own personal beliefs.
  • [26:67] - His ex-girlfriends are JP’s greatest teachers, he says. He then goes on to explore what he learned from his parents -- and his dog.
  • [30:31] - After having heard from JP about his lessons from his dog Zephyr, Orion playfully discusses the three lessons that she has learned from her cat.
  • [32:18] - JP talks about sexual energy, describing it as “a river of life that flows through us.”
  • [35:38] - What are JP’s practices for increasing sexual energy? He clarifies that he still has a lot of work to do in overcoming old shame that he projects onto sexual energy.
  • [39:37] - Orion talks about Jaiya and sexual blueprints, which you can hear more about in Stellar Life Episode 3. She and JP then discuss dimming our light to let others shine, and how that relates to sexual energy.
  • [43:21] - What is the difference between being alive and truly living?
  • [44:30] - JP talks about what he gained from his experience with Tony Robbins.
  • [48:32] - We hear about Orion’s experiences with Tony Robbins -- and she recommends his events as a place for single people to meet like-minded singles.
  • [50:10] - JP discusses how his friend Karen ended up becoming his assistant. His advice on hiring someone is to look for a feeling of trust.
  • [53:28] - What are JP’s three tips for living a stellar life? 1: Seek to be who you are, not who you want to be. 2: Be creative and express your creativity. 3: Practice vulnerability.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

How would your life look different if you lived it unapologetically? Envision what that life would look like, and then work on growing toward that life.

Eventually the pain of hiding who we are outweighs the pain of stepping into who we are. If you’ve reached this point, it’s time to be brave; release the persona you’ve created and become yourself.

Practice differentiating between anticipated or imagined pain and potential real pain, and make choices based on the latter. Often the reality isn’t nearly as bad as our fear of it.

Links and Resources:

AwakenWIthJP on Facebook
YouTube
@AwakenWithJP on Twitter
AwakenWithJP on Instagram
Paul Chek
C.H.E.K Institute
The Healing Power of Cat Purrs
Jaiya
Stellar Life Episode 3
The Tony Robbins Experience
Tony Robbins

Nov 15, 2016

Mission #38

On Board: Dave Asprey
Mission: Hacking Your Body, Part One

The Co-Pilot:

This time on Stellar Life, we have a guest so special that we had to split the episode into two parts! Dave Asprey is the man behind the Bulletproof brand, which includes Bulletproof Coffee, Bulletproof Radio, and the New York Times bestselling book The Bulletproof Diet. He’s spent around 30 years and almost $1 million on biohacking his body. But Dave wasn’t always interested in health: he used to weigh a hundred pounds more than he does now, and got his start in the technology industry.

In this first part of the two-part series, we hear a lot about Dave’s background. He explains how (and why) he made the shift from tech into biohacking, and what he hopes to get out of providing all this information. We also have the pleasure of hearing his first-hand experience with some biohacking techniques, and he provides some valuable tips and insights into how to do your own biohacking.

Connect With Dave Asprey:
@bulletproofexec on Twitter
Bulletproofexecutive on Facebook
dave.asprey on Instagram

The Mission Log:

  • [05:42] -- Dave introduces himself and explains more about who he is and his experiences and credentials.
  • [06:33] -- We learn more about Dave’s introduction to biohacking, which started around 30 years ago. He also mentions The Better Baby Book, then goes on to give his definition of the term “biohacking.”
  • [09:42] -- Orion asks Dave what we can do with stem cell therapy. He reveals that he plans to live to be at least 180 years old. He goes into quite a bit of detail about the stem cell retrieval process, as well as the culturing process.
  • [11:30] -- Dave explains more about what he wanted to do with stem cells in his own body (and what he’s already done with them). He’s gone so far as to have stem cells injected into his “boy parts,” to use his term.
  • [14:17] -- Dave’s wife had a similar procedure done, which clearly had a very positive effect on her as well.
  • [14:50] -- What are the three top lessons Dave learned from hacking his body?
  • [16:55] -- The Bulletproof Diet, in a nutshell, is a diet designed to create maximum willpower. The side effects are more energy and a complete decimation of food cravings.
  • [17:57] -- Dave explains some details about how certain foods are good for some people, but can have negative effects on other people. For more information, you can read The Bulletproof Diet or start cooking from Bulletproof: The Cookbook.
  • [19:32] -- Dave has a gift for Stellar Life listeners! You can download The Bulletproof Diet Roadmap, which tells you everything in the book in one page.
  • [20:14] -- There’s a difference between brain octane oil and MCT oil, as Dave explains here.
  • [21:19] -- Dave explains why he started the Bulletproof business. He gushes about his gratitude for being able to help people.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

Do your own research into stem cell therapy to understand what it’s capable of. There have been huge breakthroughs; it’s not just about cloning sheep anymore.

Come up with one specific thing that you want to change about your body. Instead of trying to figure out whether you can do it, figure out how to do it.

Download the Bulletproof Diet Roadmap, print it, and stick it on your refrigerator. Try to become more conscious of choosing foods that it encourages.

Links and Resources:

@bulletproofexec on Twitter
Bulletproofexecutive on Facebook
dave.asprey on Instagram
The Better Baby Book
The Bulletproof Diet
Brain octane oil
MCT oil
The Bulletproof Diet Roadmap

Nov 15, 2016

Mission #38

On Board: Dave Asprey
Mission: Hacking Your Mind Part Two

The Co-Pilot:

If you’re here, it’s probably because you’ve already heard part one of our two-part series with Dave Asprey (and if you haven’t, go listen to it and then come back -- it’s great!). While you probably already know quite a bit about Dave from the previous episode, he’s remarkable enough to deserve a recap. He’s the author of New York Times bestselling book The Bulletproof Diet, and the man behind the other Bulletproof products such as Bulletproof Coffee and Bulletproof Radio. Thanks to his expertise in biohacking, he fully intends to live to be 180 years old -- and he’s dedicated to sharing his knowledge and advice.

In this second part of the two-part series, Dave gives listeners a plethora of valuable (and interesting!) information. We learn about his experience with stem cell injections into the brain, the profound effect that mold can have on health and even personality, and his plans for the forthcoming Bulletproof Labs. Finally, he spends a while talking about neurofeedback, offering a compelling depiction of its potential benefits.

Connect With Dave Asprey:
@bulletproofexec on Twitter
Bulletproofexecutive on Facebook
dave.asprey on Instagram

The Mission Log:

  • [03:37] -- Dave talks briefly about the term “hacking” as related to the body and mind.
  • [04:07] -- We learn that Dave is one of only two people in the world who have had prophylactic stem cell injections into the brain.
  • [04:48] -- Dave’s documentary about mold, called MOLDY, actually helped Orion’s sister, as we learn here. Dave then goes on to give some information about the making of the documentary.
  • [06:36] -- Orion gives us some more insight into what she saw in her sister, and Dave responds with advice about when to get rid of your current doctor.
  • [07:47] -- It took about six weeks of Dave’s life to make the documentary, and several hundred thousand dollars, but he says it’s all worth it if helped Orion’s sister, even if it hadn’t impacted anyone else.
  • [10:21] -- Dave’s next book is about mitochondria, and he explains why.
  • [10:54] -- It turns out Dave already has a lot of the equipment that will be at the forthcoming Bulletproof Labs (which will be in Santa Monica), and tests it all on himself.
  • [11:57] -- Orion talks about her own experience with the REDcharger that will be available when the lab opens. She said that it made her feel as relaxed as if she’d spent all day at the beach.
  • [12:32] -- The virtual floating tank is Orion’s favorite of the equipment she tried. Dave explains more about what a floating tank is, and both the problems and the benefits associated with it. He also tells us how the tank he designed is different than a traditional tank (you don’t even need to get wet!).
  • [15:12] -- Some people who have used these tanks have experienced things that could be dreams or flashes of a past life. Consciously getting into a theta state is where all the good things happen, Dave explains.
  • [16:38] -- Dave elaborates on what neurofeedback is. He describes it as holding a mirror up to the brain in a way it can understand.
  • [18:20] -- To illustrate how neurofeedback works, Dave compares the idea of being in a Zen monastery to meditating with rubber bumpers. He then goes on to talk about neurofeedback augmented retrofeeding, which lets you reset certain things in your brain.
  • [20:39] -- Dave tells us what effect this had on other people in his life who has tried it. He says it quiets the negative voice most of us hear. The invisible self-sabotaging parts become visible.
  • [22:14] -- You can replace years of meditation with a few years of neurofeedback. Dave explains its other benefits, including an increase in intelligence.
  • [23:56] -- Dave tells us his three tips for living a stellar life: 1. Practice gratitude every day. 2. Accept that if you have a food craving, it’s your fault. 3. Address your physical issues.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

Watch Dave’s documentary MOLDY. If it leads you to believe that you may be suffering from mold-related issues, take steps to ensure your home is mold-free.

Research neurotherapy and contact a provider in your area to discuss whether it’s right for you. It tends to be costly, but the results can be priceless.

Every night, find three things you’re grateful for. Write them down in a journal to get in the habit of identifying and expressing gratitude.

Links and Resources:

@bulletproofexec on Twitter
Bulletproofexecutive on Facebook
dave.asprey on Instagram
MOLDY
Mitochondria
40 Years of Zen
Neurofeedback
The Bulletproof Diet Roadmap
Bulletproof Training Institute
Bulletproof Radio

Nov 8, 2016

Mission #37

On Board: Samantha Pilbeam
Mission: Attracting Dream Relationships and a Dream Life

The Co-Pilot:

Our co-pilot on this episode is the lovely Samantha Pilbeam, a businesswoman and entrepreneur who manifested her dream life -- and even her ideal partner -- through the Law of Attraction and following a continuing path of self-improvement.

Samantha, who lives in the UK with her partner Greg, was once stuck in a life characterized by low self-esteem and unhealthy relationships. Using various tools and techniques, she crafted a better life for herself and became the happy, fulfilled, successful woman she is today.

Thanks to her own life experiences,she’s passionate about helping others and making the world a better place. That’s what she’s here to do today. In this episode, you’ll learn all about how she manifested her ideal life, and the daily steps you can take to do the same. As Orion puts it, “Your vibration needs to match the life you want.”

Connect With Samantha Pilbeam:
[email protected]

The Mission Log:

  • [05:11] - Samantha shares a bit about herself, including where she lives and a broad overview of her relationship with her partner.
  • [05:50] - We learn about Samantha’s history of being attracted to men who weren’t right for her, or drawn into dysfunctional relationships.
  • [06:16] - Samantha’s first role models were her parents, who had a dysfunctional relationship. She describes their differences.
  • [07:03] - The type of men who Samantha attracted (and was attracted to) were very similar to her father.
  • [07:44] - Are women going to the wrong places to find love? Samantha indirectly answers that via her own life story.
  • [08:27] - Samantha describes her previous life at the time that she started to realize she needed to make a change, around ten years ago.
  • [09:31] - What was the void, and what was the catalyst for change?
  • [10:24] - The moment that made Samantha realized she really needed a change was when her then-partner punched her in the face. Orion and Samantha discuss how sometimes it takes painful moments to make you realize you need change, and they can be a gift in disguise.
  • [12:14] - At the time, Samantha’s friends and family provided a support group for her.
  • [13:35] - Samantha reflects on her previous relationships, pointing out that what she then thought was “love” wasn’t really love, and that low self-esteem contributed to her decisions.
  • [16:02] - We hear more about Samantha’s life before she learned how to love herself.
  • [17:10] - If you come from a lineage of being treated unkindly, it’s up to you to stand up and change that tradition, Orion explains.
  • [17:39] - Samantha agrees with Orion’s explanation, then applies the same concept to the relation with money. She explores the difference between having a lot of money and experiencing abundance.
  • [18:46] - Samantha opened a beauty business during the middle of the recession, and discovered breathwork and rebirthing around that same time.
  • [19:35] - She describes the experience of doing rebirthing, and how much it can vary from time to time. She also tells us a bit about the self-discoveries that she made this way.
  • [21:10] - Samantha discusses how often she did breathwork, and the three different modules in which she did it.
  • [21:57] - Breathwork isn’t just motivational; it involves a lot of work, dealing with a lot of pain. Samantha noticed that after doing breathwork, she started to love herself more.
  • [23:13] - We hear about how Samantha used breathwork and meditation to help overcome her issues surrounding money. Darius Barazandeh helped her with this.
  • [24:23] - Samantha tells us about the men who started showing up in her life after she started doing breathwork and changing herself.
  • [25:39] - True masculinity doesn’t need to take stereotypically masculine forms. For Samantha, true masculinity is a man who treats a woman like a goddess.
  • [26:34] - The man who Samantha is currently with is exactly what she wrote down when she did her manifesting. We also hear about her previous relationship.
  • [27:42] - Several years earlier, Samantha had taken a Law of Attraction course by Tony Robbins (but in her case, led by Joseph McClendon). She stopped for a while after being freaked out by how quickly she started attracting things into her life.
  • [30:10] - At the time, she explains, she wasn’t ready to receive the life she wanted. Part of her wanted to stay in “suffering mode” because that was the life she was used to.
  • [31:14] - When Samantha next used the Law of Attraction, after having done the breathwork, she was ready to receive. She was also ready for the element of surrender that it required.
  • [32:08] - Orion steps in for a moment to explain what she means by “surrender.”
  • [32:55] - Samantha agrees with Orion’s description, and goes on to explain that her fear was also part of what led to her being in those unhealthy relationships.
  • [33:33] - How did Samantha find Mr. Right?
  • [35:30] - How did she start believing in the Law of Attraction in a way that allowed her to manifest the things she had written on her list?
  • [36:18] - Samantha took about 15 to 20 minutes every morning for her exercise in believing in the Law of Attraction.
  • [37:00] - By the end of the two weeks Samantha took to make herself believe in the Law of Attraction, she let go of the idea because she believed in it so fully that she just knew it would work. She set up a Meetup group several months later, and her partner Greg showed up at the first meeting.
  • [38:10] - Samantha tells us about how she and Greg started dating, and how she realized that he was “the one” for her.
  • [40:22] - What has Samantha done to keep the love alive (and the relationship healthy) after the initial sparks of the relationship wore off?
  • [41:54] - In a successful relationship, both parties take responsibility for their own happiness rather than trying to find it in their partner.
  • [43:48] - Samantha’s three tips for living a stellar life are: appreciate what you have and show gratitude, give yourself love, and give back to people and the world.
  • [44:20] - Samantha offers listeners a gift: her husband Greg is an NLP (neuro linguistic programming) trainer, and they’re offering two listeners a free NLP course early next year (January 4-10 in the Lake District in the UK). Flights and accommodation are not included, but the course is free. To enter, write Samantha a short email about why you think you should be picked and explaining your path and how this will help you (and how you will help the world). Send this to her at [email protected].

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. Pain can be a catalyst for change. Write down three recent life events that have been painful (or issues that continue to cause you pain), and then, for each one, three ways that you can turn that pain into positive change.
  2. Every morning, look in the mirror and take five minutes to practice valuing yourself. Tell yourself “I love you,” and look for the beauty reflected in the mirror -- focusing on both your internal and external beauty.
  3. We all want more money, but money doesn’t create a sense of abundance. Take ten minutes each day for a month to start a gratitude journal. Explore the forms of abundance that you do have in your life.

Links and Resources:

Darius Barazandeh
Breathwork
Rebirthing
Tony Robbins
Law of Attraction
Joseph McClendon
NLP
Vision board

Nov 1, 2016

Mission #36

On Board: Shanda Sumpter
Mission: Creating Financial Abundance

The Co-Pilot:

On this episode of Stellar Life, we have the pleasure of hearing from the inspirational Shanda Sumpter. Shanda is a nationally recognized business coach, author, and speaker. You may have heard of her thanks to her bestselling book, Core Calling: How to Build a Business That Gives You a Freedom Lifestyle in 2 Years or Less.

As the founder of HeartCore Business, Shanda is experienced in guiding people to financial and personal freedom, and, after listening to this episode, you’ll understand how closely the two are linked. She explores the psychological and emotional traps that may be keeping you from financial freedom, and she makes a compelling case that taking care of yourself is a better path to success than long work weeks and burnout.

Shanda takes her philosophy one step further, giving more reason for us to listen to her words of wisdom. Once you have success, she tells us, you should share it generously. She shares this and other tips in an interview that’s sure to help you live a stellar life!

Connect with Shanda Sumpter:
Core Calling: How to Build a Business That Gives You a Freedom Lifestyle in 2 Years or Less
HeartCore Business
Facebook: HeartCore Business and Shanda Sumpter Freedom Coach
Twitter: @HeartCoreWomen


The Mission Log:

  • [02:30] - We hear about the best thing that happened to Shanda this week.
  • [02:57] - Shanda introduces herself and explains that she helps people create cash flow--and also how to be generous with that cash flow.
  • [04:02] - Humble beginnings and a broken family serve as empowering factors for Shanda, and she gives us some insight into this. We also learn about the value of hard moments in life.
  • [06:22] - Joel Osteen’s new book, Think Better, Live Better, can help you get your head in the right space to transform pain into positive change.
  • [07:22] - Shanda talks about the difference between intellectually knowing that you should do something versus actually taking your own advice and surrendering into the coaching.
  • [08:15] - We learn about the turning point from when Shanda had $500 in an envelope in her closet to when she transformed into the woman she is today. It took the thought of going back to Canada to push her into figuring out a way to change her life (and be able to stay in the U.S.).
  • [10:24] - Sometimes an opportunity is present, but we stop short of finding the solution. Shanda gives an example of how showing up and pushing for what you want eventually gets you there.
  • [11:22] - Shanda answers Orion’s question of whether showing up and going for what you want is the secret ingredient that makes women successful. She tells us we have to “stop stopping” and gives us an example of a woman who is too hard on herself.
  • [12:21] - Shanda tells us what she thinks is the biggest secret to success.
  • [13:10] - How do we know whether to keep going or whether to quit (or at least change directions)?
  • [13:20] - How can we get over “I’m not good enough”? Shanda reiterates her point again: “Complete what you start.” She then elaborates on how this applies to making money and how that, in turn, means you can make a difference in the world.
  • [14:22] - We learn about how important it is to keep your word to yourself by completing what you start. She memorably tells us, “Don’t hit snooze on your life!”
  • [15:10] - Does Shanda have any advice about the fact that many people’s self-worth is intimately linked to their income or financial situation?
  • [17:19] - Orion asks whether Shanda has any fear of rejection, and Shanda muses over the question. She explains how a fear of rejection has manifested itself in her life.
  • [18:09] - She gives advice on how to improve your fear of rejection by giving up the idea of perfection or comparison.
  • [19:02] - Shanda offers a new perspective on fears: they’re a sign that you’re stretching outside your comfort zone, so in a way they’re a good thing.
  • [19:35] - How does Shanda help people break through their fears about money abundance and achieving goals? (Hint: it’s probably not what you would expect!)
  • [21:27] - Shanda gives a compelling example of how endurance running--her answer to the previous question--is a more wide-spread solution among successful people than we may realize. She references the book Living with a SEAL: 31 Days Training with the Toughest Man on the Planet by Jesse Itzler.
  • [23:05] - When Orion asks about the fastest way to grow a business, Shanda’s answer is simple: “Build an email list and learn how to sell to it.” Of course, that leads to the question of the best way to build an email list, and Shanda answers in detail.
  • [24:24] - Shanda explains a bit about her book Core Calling: How to Build a Business That Gives You a Freedom Lifestyle in 2 Years or Less.
  • [25:01] - “Connection is currency,” says Shanda, and this is particularly applicable to email lists. She uses everyday examples from her life to connect with her readers and inspire them to grow.
  • [26:12] - Shanda talks about the value of “flextime,” which means she doesn’t work the last week of every month or the month of December. She applies this to the concept of athletes and recovery.
  • [29:46] - Flextime has made a huge difference for Shanda, and she explains both the good and the bad of the initial foray into flextime.
  • [30:19] - What is Shanda’s success system?
  • [30:51] - Where does Shanda draw boundaries in terms of her generosity? She explains that she doesn’t have boundaries.
  • [32:18] - How does Shanda’s belief in the Law of Attraction work for her?
  • [33:12] - Through the stories of a Porsche and a Facebook team, Shanda explains how you see what you want--and how keeping your eyes on what you want can help you get it.
  • [35:40] - Shanda gives another example of how opening someone up to a possibility can lead to positive results, using a story from Wayne Dyer, then relates that to a health situation in her own life.
  • [37:08] - Shanda says that “being obsessed with the end result” will lead to positive things happening quite quickly, a concept she illustrates with the story of finding her fiancé and starting a family.
  • [38:20] - We hear about the advice and coaching that Shanda got when she was in search of a lasting relationship. By following her coach’s rules, Shanda developed a new understanding of how to approach relationships.
  • [39:40] - Shanda creates the success in her company based on three formulas. There are also formulas that make her relationship work. These formulas, and the way you think, have a profound impact on your life.
  • [40:29] - Having a baby with someone she’d known for only three months is the craziest thing she’s ever done, Shanda tells us--and it clearly worked well for her!
  • [41:13] - Orion asks Shanda her three tips for living a stellar life. The answers include figuring out your finances, taking care of your body, and tithing or giving back.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. There are wise pieces of advice that we intellectually know but don’t actually follow. Identify an instance where you aren’t following your own advice, and then resolve to “surrender into the coaching.”
  2. Write down two or three hardships you’ve been through. Then, for each one, write down several ways the hardship has actually led to positive outcomes in your life.
  3. Shanda believes one key to success is to “stop stopping.” Think about something that you’ve given up on recently, whether from frustration, boredom, or a sense that it will never change. How can you keep pushing at this issue until it resolves successfully?

Links and Resources:

Core Calling: How to Build a Business That Gives You a Freedom Lifestyle in 2 Years or Less
Think Better, Live Better by Joel Osteen
Living with a SEAL: 31 Days Training with the Toughest Man on the Planet by Jesse Itzler.
Flextime
The Law of Attraction
Wayne Dyer
Tough Mudder
Spartan race
Stellar Life on Facebook

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