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Dec 27, 2016

Mission #44

On Board: Roger Love
Mission: Set Your Voice Free

The Co-Pilot:

Roger Love is an incredibly compelling -- and skilled -- vocal coach to the stars. His long list of famous clients includes, among many others, Demi Lovato, Gwen Stefani, Reese Witherspoon, and even the renowned Tony Robbins.

As you may have gathered from this snippet of his client list, Roger is one of the world’s leading authorities on voice. In fact, he’s the most commercially successful vocal coach in the speaking and singing fields. He’s been teaching voice since he was just 16 years old, and he brings all this talent and experience to this conversation.

Connect With Roger:

Roger Love
RogerLoveVocals on Facebook
@RogerLove1 on Twitter
RogerLove on Instagram

The Mission Log:

  • [04:10] - We hear about Roger’s background, including his early passion for singing and how this led him into teaching stars as a teenager. He also explains how this led him into becoming a speaking coach.
  • [08:13] - Does Roger think everyone can sing, or are there some people who just can’t? Some people are born with better voices than others, he says, but everyone has an original and unique voice. Even people born without great instruments have the potential to do well if they work hard at it.
  • [10:42] - Roger gives the example of Pavarotti, who decided to be a singer at around 35.
  • [11:44] - Roger discusses his love for taking people like Orion -- who loved singing as a child -- and helping them incorporate musicality into their speaking voices. He also explains that you only have about a second to make your first impression through speaking.
  • [14:45] - What are the five components of voice and how can we best use them? They’re pitch, pace, tone, melody, and volume. He gives some tips on volume, melody, pace.
  • [21:03] - Most people believe there are only two voices: chest voice and head voice. This can lead to speakers or singers getting trapped in one voice or the other because of the difficulty of transitioning between the two. Middle voice gives people the ability to sing between these two ranges without the voice breaking. Roger also explains why the middle and head voice are important even to speakers.
  • [26:05] - Sound waves from your voice vibrate the bodies of listeners. Roger explains why this is important. He also says that the people who sing or speak in the way he teaches for an hour a day increases life expectancy up to eight years (among several other benefits that he lists).
  • [29:25] - Roger tells us how he helped Tony Robbins keep from losing his voice and work through the tremendous amount of wear and tear on his voice.
  • [31:10] - John Gray’s voice wouldn’t work for Tony Robbins, and vice versa, and Roger demonstrates why. He then goes on to talk about how important it is to have different sounds and voices for each character you need to play.
  • [35:52] - “People all need to think about voice first,” Roger tells us. He emphasizes the importance of voice in interactions, and mentions his forthcoming book Set Your Voice Free. It’s a new, expanded edition of his first book, containing everything he’s learned in the 16 years since the original edition came out.
  • [37:02] - Roger talks about what he calls “overlapping frequencies,” which he believes is why children of different genders feel connected before puberty. Once puberty happens and men and women sound different, a divide is created. Overlapping frequencies are the ranges in which men’s and women’s voices tend to overlap.
  • [40:00] - We hear more about Roger’s new book. He also mentions that there’s a partnering website that comes with the book.
  • [42:30] - What makes the best female speakers great? Roger emphasizes the combination of the five voice components he mentioned before, and mentions having a physiology that matches those sounds. He also talks about the problems with parallel gestures -- doing the same thing with both hands at the same time.
  • [46:15] - Roger shares an exercise that can help speakers. Close your mouth, breathe in through your nose, and pretend there’s a balloon in your abdomen. When you breathe in, fill your abdomen; when you exhale, let your abdomen come back in. This is diaphragmatic breathing.
  • [52:21] - Voice is one of the most important ways of establishing self-confidence, Roger tells us.
  • [53:54] - What products of his do Roger recommend? First, he recommends his new book Set Your Voice Free again. He then recommends The Perfect Voice, for which Stellar Life listeners will receive a $50 discount!
  • [55:38] - What are Roger’s three tips to living a stellar life? 1. Record yourself speaking and listen attentively, paying attention to your volume. 2. Record yourself again, this time focusing on having more melody and “walking up the stairs.” 3. Record yourself once more, this time speaking only while your stomach is coming in.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

Unless you already tend to speak loudly, work on raising your volume. Don’t be afraid to speak loudly enough to be heard (by others, not just yourself).

Practice incorporating more melody into your speech. Many of us tend to speak monotonously, but incorporating melody will make your voice more compelling.

Practice shifting from downward melodies to upward stair-step melodies, as if the sound is walking up the stairs as you speak.

Links and Resources:

Roger Love
RogerLoveVocals on Facebook
@RogerLove1 on Twitter
RogerLove on Instagram
Set Your Voice Free
The Perfect Voice
Demi Lovato
Gwen Stefani
Reese Witherspoon
John Gray
Diaphragmatic breathing
Chest voice, middle voice, and head voice

Dec 20, 2016

Mission #43

On Board: Kathryn Weber
Mission: Reboot Your Life with Feng Shui

The Co-Pilot:

In this episode, I had the pleasure of talking with Kathryn Weber. Kathryn is a leading feng shui expert whose works have appeared in many prestigious magazine, and after hearing the depths of her expertise and wisdom in this conversation, it’s easy to understand why.

In addition to sharing her knowledge through her world-recognized feng shui e-zine the Red Lotus Letter, Kathryn teaches other feng shui experts how to run their businesses. She also does a great job of combining her feng shui knowledge with a witty, down-to-earth personality that makes the philosophy accessible.

Connect With Kathryn:
FengShuiKatie on Facebook
@FengShuiKatie on Twitter

The Mission Log:

  • [05:21] - Kathryn tells us about herself and how she learned about feng shui while living on an island in the middle of the Pacific Ocean. She shares two stories about her early days with feng shui.
  • [09:00] - We hear about how Kathryn incorporates feng shui into her identity. She explains that you don’t need to be in a constantly quasi-meditative state to use feng shui, and that energy and activity are good things.
  • [10:54] - Red is an important color for women, and Kathryn explains why.
  • [12:04] - What is feng shui in a nutshell? It was originally a study of time rather than space, Kathryn tells us.
  • [15:09] - Kathryn describes the trinity of luck for zodiac signs. She also describes how her tiger sign fits her.
  • [16:30] - We hear about how feng shui can influence your love life. If you’re a single woman, having images of single women in your home can make it more difficult to find a relationship, so Kathryn suggests including male art or imagery instead.
  • [17:59] - Kathryn talks about how to use feng shui to attract a man. Hint: having a headboard is more important than you might realize. She also discusses the importance of cooking even if you’re a single woman, and the fact that the stomach is the way to the heart.
  • [23:26] - Kathryn gives some suggestions for how to minimize family drama around the holidays by using feng shui.
  • [25:04] - What is the ideal color for the bedroom? Kathryn says it comes down to what makes you feel comfortable, but gives some tips on what to avoid, particularly metal headboards. She also says that today’s flat-screen TVs aren’t a problem in feng shui the way older TVs were. Floral bedrooms are also a problem, she explains.
  • [28:42] - Kathryn explains why we should avoid red walls in the bedroom, and says that any natural human skin colors are excellent colors for romance.
  • [29:58] - We hear more of Kathryn’s history while learning about feng shui.
  • [31:05] - What are Kathryn’s best tips and tools for creating abundance through feng shui? She talks about the importance of a beautiful front door, and explains that fresh paint and some plants or flowers can make a huge difference.
  • [34:40] - Kathryn talks about colors for front doors, and how the ideal depends on the direction it’s facing. She goes on to talk about the color purple.
  • [36:05] - Kathryn raves about oranges, especially about their symbolism of money in feng shui.
  • [37:53] - What feng shui tips are there for a wedding? We hear about color options and suggestions, and she and Orion discuss the colors for Orion’s upcoming wedding.
  • [40:43] - How does feng shui affect our productivity?
  • [45:10] - Kathryn explains how the ancient art of feng shui can apply to modern spaces such as websites. She suggests using colors that harmonize with the kind of work you do.
  • [47:32] - In relation to the quizzes available on her website, Kathryn talks about how to use a bagua to figure out how best to apply feng shui to your home.
  • [49:49] - Kathryn does a forecast every year, and offers a preview of three pieces of advice for 2017.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. What color resonates most deeply with you? Sit down with a piece of paper and jot down notes about what this color evokes or represents to better understand how it suits you.
  2. Take the calculator quizzes on Kathryn’s website to gain more insight into how best to incorporate feng shui techniques into your life and home.
  3. Determine your Chinese zodiac sign and examine how it fits you. You might learn something new and gain insight into yourself.

Links and Resources:
FengShuiKatie on Facebook
@FengShuiKatie on Twitter
Feng shui
Louise Hay

Dec 13, 2016

Mission #42

On Board: Dr. Helen L. Irlen
Mission: Live Brighter and Better Through the Science of Color

The Co-Pilot:

Dr. Helen L. Irlen is a global leader in the area of visual processing. She’s the founder of the Irlen Method, which emphasizes the importance of color in everyday function for many people. Through years of research, she has discovered that colored glasses or filters can make an incredible difference in how people’s brains function.

Fortunately, Helen has been generous with sharing her research and knowledge. There are close to two hundred affiliated Irlen centers worldwide in 45 countries. In addition, Helen has written several books, including most notably The Irlen Revolution: A Guide to Changing Your Perception and Your Life.

Connect With Helen:
The Irlen Institute @SeeIrlen on Twitter

The Mission Log:

  • [05:12] - Helen talks about herself and her mission in the world. To give us some insight into who she is, she tells us a few stories about her life.
  • [08:43] - Why was Helen interested in the psych ward, and what was the driving force that motivated her to pursue her research?
  • [11:29] - Helen goes into more detail about what the Irlen Syndrome is. She also describes the experience of working one-on-one with adults.
  • [17:06] - How do you become a good listener? Helen says to avoid imposing your own issues on someone else, so you’re a blank slate and can really hear what people are saying.
  • [18:51] - The Irlen Syndrome is a visual processing deficit that you can inherit or acquire (or both). It leads to difficulties in areas such as reading, academic skills, attention and concentration, depth perception, and more.
  • [19:34] - The symptoms of Irlen Syndrome can vary, Helen explains. She also talks about the percents of people who have the syndrome. We hear about how flourescent light can be an issue for many people.
  • [23:36] - Orion volunteers to be Helen’s guinea pig, which allows listeners to hear several minutes of Helen’s questioning process for beginning to assess whether someone might have Irlen Syndrome.
  • [28:15] - Helen describes the issues that can be triggered for certain people by sunlight, bright lights, fluorescent lights, and so on.
  • [29:50] - How does Helen help the people who come to her? She suggests starting with the tests on her website.
  • [32:20] - Helen talks about what colored filters and lenses can do to help our brains.
  • [34:01] - We hear about how Helen’s research and methods can help people who have been in the military with various problems and symptoms. She also discusses its uses for people on the autism spectrum, as well as high-functioning professional adults who want peak performance.
  • [39:21] - Helen speaks emotionally about the impact that her method has had on veterans and marines.
  • [42:07] - Helen offers two funny stories of the effects that Irlen filters have had on users.
  • [43:18] - You can inherit Irlen Syndrome, which doesn’t always show up in childhood and may present in college or later.
  • [47:02] - What would Helen like her legacy to be? In her answer, she explains why she isn’t interested in retiring: because she can’t think of anything more rewarding than what she’s already doing every day.
  • [50:29] - Helen shares her three top tips for living a stellar life: 1. Understand that your brain is uniquely different from anyone else’s brain. 2. Don’t buy into what other people have said to you about yourself. 3. Give yourself a hug everyday and tell yourself how wonderful you are.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. Practice becoming a better listener. Do your best to set your own issues and thoughts aside to become a blank slate and listen to what the person you’re talking to is actually saying.
  2. Think about how you feel after you’ve been focused on reading for a while. If you experience physical symptoms, you may fall on the Irlen Syndrome continuum.
  3. Take the “Long Self-Test for Irlen Syndrome.” This test will help you determine whether you’re one of the many people unknowingly suffering from Irlen Syndrome.

Links and Resources:
The Irlen Institute @SeeIrlen on Twitter
The Irlen Revolution: A Guide to Changing Your Perception and Your Life
Irlen Syndrome
Irlen Self Tests

Dec 6, 2016

Mission #41

On Board: Brian Traichel
Mission: Linkedin Money Making Secrets

The Co-Pilot:

This week, you’ll have the pleasure and privilege of hearing some great LinkedIn advice and insight from a true expert, Brian Traichel. Brian discovered LinkedIn by chance in 2004, and since then has been putting it to great use to form connections and grow his business.

As he shares his best-kept secrets about LinkedIn, Brian reveals that the key is in forming meaningful connections. And it’s no wonder he has this sort of perspective, when he’s worked with greats including Brian Tracy, Michael Gerber, Tony Robbins, and Barbara De Angelis. His sales strategies are based on real connections and providing value, and in this episode, he walks listeners through exactly how to form these meaningful, authentic business relationships.

Connect With Brian:

Brian Traichel on LinkedIn
BrianTraichel on Facebook

The Mission Log:

  • [04:28] - Brian starts things off by telling us a bit about himself, his career history, and how he discovered LinkedIn.
  • [06:14] - Why is LinkedIn so powerful? Brian talks about the value of LinkedIn’s nature as a business site.
  • [08:35] - Your LinkedIn profile may be the first thing people see about you online, so it needs to have the equivalent of “curb appeal,” Brian tells us.
  • [10:02] - Brian talks about what kind of profile picture you need on your LinkedIn profile.
  • [10:34] - In your description, you only have a few sections to capture someone’s attention. Brian lists what should be in your summary section. He goes on to talk about the 22 sections of a full LinkedIn profile, and explains what belongs in the “education” section.
  • [13:45] - One of the roles of your LinkedIn profile is to answer questions people have about you and your skills and abilities.
  • [14:53] - Brian reveals that he actually uses the free version of LinkedIn, not the premium version. He then goes on to estimate that 80% of his business has come through LinkedIn.
  • [16:18] - Once you have your picture and profile filled out on LinkedIn, what do you do next? Brian’s suggestions: share your Facebook updates there as well, and join LinkedIn groups. He also describes the power of LinkedIn groups, and how they make it possible to reach thousands of people in minutes.
  • [18:16] - Brian talks about the etiquette of connecting with people. For him, it’s all about personal connections.
  • [19:55] - Brian shares his script for what to say when you call people from LinkedIn. His first example is of a client calling a provider, and the second is of a provider calling a potential client. In both examples, his emphasis is on making a human connection, not talking business. Once the connection is made, he suggests drip marketing.
  • [22:59] - We learn more about drip marketing through LinkedIn. What Brian does is endorse each connection for a skill every week, so that his name will come to mind when that person needs someone who provides his services.
  • [25:15] - Brian suggests investing at least 30 minutes a day in LinkedIn. He explains why.
  • [26:04] - What do you do if you aren’t connected to someone and haven’t spoken with them, but want to connect with or talk to them? How is the answer different if the person isn’t in your industry?
  • [27:33] - Brian talks about whether to accept everyone who sends you a request on LinkedIn. He accepts anyone who has at least 50 connections, a picture, and a summary.
  • [28:36] - How many people does Brian connect with a day? How does he keep track of them? He suggests using LinkedIn’s tagging feature rather than Excel or another tracking system.
  • [29:14] - We hear more of Brian’s thoughts on groups. He especially recommends starting your own LinkedIn group.
  • [31:29] - Brian explains what LinkedIn Pulse is. He says it’s basically your LinkedIn feed.
  • [32:03] - LinkedIn is better than Facebook for Brian’s purposes, and he tells us why.
  • [32:27] - Brian gives his little-known secrets, including instructions on how to view people’s profiles invisibly and how to change how to see who can view your connections.
  • [34:28] - The #1 thing you should never do on LinkedIn is sell to someone after they accept your LinkedIn invitation.
  • [35:05] - Brian talks about best practices for LinkedIn groups.
  • [37:18] - What are Brian’s three tips to living a stellar life? 1. Be your own guru (meaning you should follow your gut). He gives an example of how he did this. 2: Become a minimalist and declutter. 3: Exercise the law of non-attachment. He and Orion go on to discuss the value of non-attachment.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

Before you go out to try to make new business connections, go through your current network. You’ll likely find people who you didn’t realize you were already connected to.

Upload a headshot to your LinkedIn profile. Your attire should be business casual. While a professional picture is great, a good iPhone picture is far better than nothing.

Rewrite your LinkedIn summary to address the following topics: who you are, what you do, what problem you solve, and how you do it.

Links and Resources:

Brian Traichel on LinkedIn
BrianTraichel on Facebook
Brian Tracy
Michael Gerber
Tony Robbins
Barbara De Angelis
Drip marketing
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up