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Jan 31, 2017

Mission #49

On Board: Sally Anderson
Mission: Healing, Love, & Leadership

The Co-Pilot:

In this conversation, I had the incredible pleasure of speaking with an absolutely amazing woman: Sally Anderson. She’s a world-renowned leadership coach, inspirational speaker, author and master trainer, who has decades of experience coaching the top levels in the corporate world.

Sally certainly hasn’t had an easy time of it. However, as she explains in this conversation, she transformed a shocking, heart-wrenching, traumatic experience into a life story that led her to become the amazing person she is today. She also talks about how important it is to silence your inner critic, and explores the steps you can take to feel inspired and empowered in a lasting way, rather than just for days or weeks at a time.

Connect With Sally:

@Freefall_Sally on Twitter
Sally Anderson on Facebook
Freefall: Living Life Beyond the Edge
The Co-Creative Age

The Mission Log:

  • [02:23] - Sally launches things off by telling us a bit about herself. She goes through her early life in chronological order, then talks about an incredibly shocking story. At just 15, she was abducted and gang-raped by members of New Zealand’s Mongrel Mob. She then recounts the inability of her family and society to acknowledge her trauma, and the resulting dysfunction.
  • [07:06] - We learn that Sally is at the forefront of leadership services providing a sustainability element of personal and professional transformation.
  • [09:20] - How did Sally’s experience impact her identity as a woman, as well as her interactions with men, women, and her own body?
  • [10:47] - Sally shares how her experience affected her voice. She then talks more about how her body image was impacted as well.
  • [13:33] - Being one’s word is integral to experiencing true transformation, Sally explains, then goes into depth about how this works. She then talks about the default identity, a disempowered self-image that we adopt and validate.
  • [16:10] - What happened to Sally emotionally when she became a bodybuilder? She then explores the problem with thinking that you’ll be happy once you achieve a certain goal.
  • [19:07] - Forgiving people isn’t the first step in healing, Sally says, then explains what the real first step is.
  • [19:55] - Sally discusses the difference between analytical forgiveness versus experiential forgiveness.
  • [21:10] - We hear about Sally’s experience on 60 Minutes.
  • [22:22] - How do you acknowledge that you are being your own worst perpetrator?
  • [25:50] - Sally talks about the next step, if you have awareness of what you’re doing and but keep sabotaging yourself anyway. Her answer revolves around choice.
  • [27:07] - We learn about Sally’s personal life with her husband and the fact that they haven’t had physical children.
  • [29:43] - Stopping people from hurting permanently is the essence of the education she provides, Sally explains.
  • [30:22] - What was the moment that Sally realized she was healed?
  • [33:33] - Sally shares her journey as it relates to her physicality and body. In the process, she talks about women’s dysfunction about weight.
  • [36:12] - We learn what Sally does in terms of mastering the inner critic.
  • [36:49] - Sally talks about her technique for dealing with the inner critic, which has a lot to do with her work around the default identity. She then explores why asking someone “are you a child abuser?” can help them overcome their own inner critic.
  • [40:07] - Despite having every reason on earth not to trust anything, Sally has managed to achieve and maintain a successful marriage. Here, she explains how she transformed her life and allowed that to happen.
  • [44:07] - Orion shares an overview of her own journey as it relates to healing and love.
  • [47:41] - In Sally’s perspective, what is a leader?
  • [51:19] - What are Sally’s three tips to leading a stellar life? 1. Beliefs run your life, so get disciplined in retraining your thought patterns. 2. Do whatever you can to form a new relationship with your spoken word. 3. Take responsibility, and don’t use excuses like not having enough time, money, or energy prevent you from reclaiming your power.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. First, take a moment to figure out what was the most traumatic event of your life. Next, write down at least five positive things that have resulted from it.
  2. Write down your desires in each of the four main areas of transformation: money, love, vocation, and well-being.
  3. In the last five years, what sustained changes have you made in each of those four areas? Write down a specific list for each area of transformation.

Links and Resources:

@Freefall_Sally on Twitter
Sally Anderson on Facebook
Freefall: Living Life Beyond the Edge
The Co-Creative Age
Evolved Leadership
Mongrel Mob
Cory Everson
Inner critic

Jan 24, 2017

Mission #48

On Board: Dr. Pat Allen
Mission: Love and Relationships

The Co-Pilot:

Dr. Pat Allen, known as the Love Doctor, has been featured all over for her relationship expertise. She has made many appearances on the Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, Bravo, Millionaire Matchmaker, Fox 11 News, and many more.

In addition to her media appearances, Pat is a bestselling author, a speaker, a psychotherapist, and a communication and relationship expert. She has written many books, including Getting to “I Do,” Staying Married and Loving It, and The Truth About Men. Her newest book, It’s a Man’s World and a Woman’s Universe, will be released soon.

Connect With Pat:

drpatallen.com
Dr. Pat Allen’s radio show
@DrPat_Allen on Twitter
DrPatAllen2 on Facebook

The Mission Log:

  • [01:45] - Pat starts things off by telling us the basics about herself: she’s 82, widowed, with four children, seven grandchildren, and a boyfriend.
  • [2:14] - What got Pat interested in relationships? She answers, then explains how she bases her study of relationships on science.
  • [03:24] - We hear about the differences between men and women in biological terms, with Pat explaining that all fetuses are female for a few days. She then lists several famous men who have (or had) the brain structure of a woman.
  • [08:18] - What’s the best way to deal with a man? Pat’s answer depends on whether the man in question is right-handed or left-handed.
  • [09:36] - What are the things that keep single women up at night? “They haven’t decided to be either a woman with a career or a career woman,” Pat replies, then elaborates on what she means.
  • [10:46] - Pat offers up two pledges, one for men and one for women. The differences between the two reveal the differences between the genders, which she uses to clarify the problem she discussed a moment ago in her friend’s relationship.
  • [13:22] - We hear about how women shift into becoming more like men during and after menopause.
  • [14:27] - What advice does Pat have for young, entrepreneurial women who have a hard time finding a man?
  • [16:28] - Gay couples have the same energy as heterosexual couples, Pat explains, with gay couples having a top (left-lobe) man and a bottom (feminine) man. Lesbian couples involve a butch woman and a femme. She then goes on to talk about codependency, and discusses The Evolution of Desire by David Buss.
  • [21:02] - How can a single woman feel and be more attractive and desirable? Pat’s answer is to be healthy (which she acknowledges may take a lot of doctors). She then discusses how Eric Berne tweaked Freud’s ideas.
  • [24:42] - Part of the journey for single women is to get in touch with the inner child.
  • [26:34] - If you and your husband are running a business together, you can make an appointment to be two men, but it needs to be a business. It’s when you’re trying to be a couple that you need to be a man and a woman.
  • [29:14] - What is it like to act like a woman in a relationship?
  • [30:10] - Pat discusses online dating, and gives more advice on being a woman in a relationship with a man, including not to mother him and to acquiesce to his decisions.
  • [32:47] - What should a woman have in her online dating profile? Pat’s main piece of advice is to market what you want to be in a relationship.
  • [33:52] - When should a single woman have sex with her date? “When she has a contract. Either that or she’s a prostitute and she’s gonna get her money.” Pat then advises women to decide whether they want to get laid or paid, and make their dating decisions accordingly.
  • [35:30] - Before you have a contract with a man, you can do anything except penile insertion.
  • [37:10] - Orion asks how we can trust men. Pat answers that she doesn’t trust anybody.
  • [38:42] - If you give real men free sex, they’ll enjoy it, but men don’t marry vaginas. If they do marry you after you had a passionate courtship, though, don’t be surprised if he asks, “Who is he?” the first time you come home five minutes late.
  • [39:26] - What is Pat’s best dating advice?
  • [40:40] - What is the main problem? Men are in charge of junk (like buying and selling) while we women are in charge of the air of love (accepting, rejecting, and tolerating).
  • [42:25] - A woman should wait until she’s been with somebody for at least a year before getting married.
  • [43:14] - Pat’s advice for single ladies coping with Valentine’s Day is to go dancing. They should then flirt with their eyes; let the man do the speaking. Just look in his eyes and smile.
  • [46:45] - What are Pat’s three tips for living a stellar life? She recommends the book Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill. Second, she advises taking care of your body. Finally, know how to negotiate (not intimidate) and seduce people.
  • [48:08] - Pat talks about her show, which is on talk radio every Thursday from 5-6 pm.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. Ladies, when dealing with right-handed men, try not to combine feelings and thoughts; they can handle one at a time, but not both.
  2. Treat your body in a healthy way, especially if you’re looking for a man. Men pick with their eyes, Pat explains, so respect your body.
  3. If you’re a career woman most of the time, practice transitioning into becoming a woman with a career outside of your work hours.

Links and Resources:

drpatallen.com
Dr. Pat Allen’s radio show
@DrPat_Allen on Twitter
DrPatAllen2 on Facebook
Getting to “I Do”
Staying Married and Loving It
The Truth About Men
Roger Sperry
The Evolution of Desire by David Buss
Eric Berne
Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill
The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge.

Jan 17, 2017

Mission #47

On Board: Michael E. Gerber
Mission: Beyond The E-Myth-From a Company of One to a Company of 1000

The Co-Pilot:

In this episode, I have the honor of having a conversation with the renowned Michael Gerber, who you probably recognize as the mega-bestselling author of 28 ‘E-Myth’ books, in The New York Times™, Business Week, Inc. Magazine, FORTUNE, Forbes and Wired. Perhaps his most famous book is his original: The E-Myth, which has sold over 5 million copies. Luckily for all of us, he just released another book, Beyond the E-Myth. Better yet, you can download the first chapter of Beyond the E-Myth for free by clicking here.

Michael’s emphasis on creating duplicatable business systems has caught on over the years. In 1995, the Wall Street Journal named The E-Myth the #1 business book of all time, and it’s been voted the #1 business book by Inc. 500 CEOs. Michael’s work is available in 145 countries and 29 languages, so it’s no wonder Inc Magazine calls Michael “The World’s #1 Small Business Guru.” In our conversation, Michael shares wonderful insights into how to turn just about anything into a business that’s both meaningful and profitable.

Connect With Michael:

@MichaelEGerber on Twitter
MichaelEGerberCo on Facebook
Michael E. Gerber Companies
emyth.com
beyondemyth.com

The Mission Log:

  • [03:33] - Michael launches things off by talking a bit about himself. We learn that he’s spent decades specializing in working with small business owners.
  • [05:30] - In his early days, Michael was a jazz saxophone player, then an encyclopedia salesman, then filled a handful of other unexpected roles. He also shares the role his mother played in his life. He also elaborates on how he got involved in the world of small business.
  • [11:11] - Michael discusses his discovery that most small business owners didn’t understand business, and explains how stopping at a McDonald’s made everything click for him.
  • [13:07] - What is the E-myth? Michael talks about the difference between true entrepreneurs and “technicians suffering from an entrepreneurial seizure.”
  • [14:40] - What are these technicians missing? In his answer, Michael talks about how to take a company of one to a company of one thousand, which is the subject of his new book.
  • [16:45] - Michael talks about the eight steps that form the system in Beyond the E-Myth. The first four steps are these: 1. Developing a dream. 2. Developing a vision. 3. Developing a purpose. 4. Developing a mission.
  • [18:41] - Why those four? Because those are the four products of the four personalities of an entrepreneur, Michael explains.
  • [21:33] - Orion steps in for a moment to rephrase and clarify what Michael has been saying. He agrees with what she says, then elaborates on it.
  • [22:56] - How do you find the right story? Michael answers, and clarifies what he means about finding a story.
  • [24:46] - Michael talks about NewCo (as opposed to OldCo). He then talks about the next four steps, as follows: 1. The job. 2. The practice. 3. The business. 4. The enterprise. This is the “hierarchy of growth,” he says.
  • [28:48] - The job, practice, business, and enterprise system is also a process of a series of steps, Michael explains. He talks us through how this might work for a hypothetical case of helping women with relationships.
  • [31:07] - What do you do once you have the client fulfillment system completed and written out? Next, Michael tells us, you build a turnkey client acquisition system. Lead generation, lead conversion, and client fulfillment should all be addressed in this turnkey system.
  • [32:30] - Michael walks us through an exercise that involves better defining your business by drawing circles with spokes representing various parts of your business.
  • [34:34] - By creating a business in the way Michael describes, you’re creating something you’ll be able to sell, Michael explains.
  • [34:57] - How do you create a manual for every system? “It’s simple, you just learn how to do it,” Michael answers. He recommends going to his site at www.beyondemyth.com to learn more.
  • [36:13] - What makes a good business owner? The abilities to focus your attention and to persevere are the most critical; everything else can be learned.
  • [36:42] - Michael clarifies what he means by focusing on equity over income.
  • [37:42] - What are Michael’s three steps to living a stellar life? What makes him happy? “What makes me happy is when my life is happy,” he shares. Creating also makes him happy, at least most of the time.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. Reassess where you are in life. Michael spent years finding himself before his inner entrepreneur woke, so be gentle with yourself if you haven’t found your purpose yet.
  2. Make a list of skills you have that might not be immediately obvious. Think about how these skills might apply to your current (or desired) work.
  3. Assess honestly whether you’re an entrepreneur or a technician. Have you created a business, or have you just created a job for yourself?

Links and Resources:

Buy the book Beyond the E-Myth here
@MichaelEGerber on Twitter
MichaelEGerberCo on Facebook
Michael E. Gerber Companies
emyth.com
The E-Myth
Beyond the E-Myth
Oprah
Tony Robbins

Jan 10, 2017

Mission #46

On Board: Cassie Piasecki
Mission: Break the Cycle of Yo-Yo Dieting

The Co-Pilot:

Today’s guest is the absolutely lovely and inspirational Cassie Piasecki, who incorporates various aspects of real food, fitness, and the power of community to help women lead a WOW Life! If you’re not fully convinced throughout the conversation, just wait until you hear her moving story near the end about a memorable client.

As a fitness and nutrition expert, and the founder of the WOW Life Nutrition Program, Cassie knows all too well about the risk of yo-yo dieting. Her mission is to help women avoid this destructive pattern and achieve long-lasting weight loss by forming good habits and incorporating a total mindset shift.

Connect With Cassie:

The WOW Life
@SmartyCassie on Twitter
@thewowlife on Facebook
@smartycassie on Instagram

The Mission Log:

  • [07:07] - Cassie gives some statistics and numbers about weight gain and loss over the holidays, including the scary fact that most people only lose about half of the weight they gain over this time period.
  • [09:36] - The word “restriction” as it relates to dieting doesn’t work for Cassie, and she explains why. In the process, she illuminates the problem with other words with negative connotations that we often use in relation to diets.
  • [11:41] - What language would Cassie use to replace the words that don’t work for her, like “restriction,” “willpower,” and “cheating”?
  • [13:33] - Cassie talks about how she got into the field of health and fitness. We hear about her first attempt to lose weight, which involved learning about portion control. She also discusses how hard it was for her to maintain her weight during the years following her initial success.
  • [16:58] - We hear more about Cassie’s problems with dieting, specifically the issues she had with diet pills. She then discusses her sugar cravings and the related problems.
  • [18:42] - Around the same time, Cassie was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis and rheumatoid arthritis.
  • [20:26] - When Cassie was around 40, she started to get more into nutrition to help her mood and her thyroid.
  • [21:36] - Cassie talks about how she cut out sugar in her diet.
  • [25:41] - We hear about all the negative life effects related to eating poorly, and the concepts of wheels of wellness and unwellness that these effects inspired Cassie to create.
  • [27:18] - Orion steps in for a moment to recommend two books to listeners: Sugar Blues, which explains the effects of sugar, and Wheat Belly, which discusses the effects of gluten.
  • [28:12] - Cassie explains that it’s hard for the average person (without a deep background in health and nutrition) to see personal connections between sugar or gluten and inflammation or disease. Instead, it’s easier to approach the subject from an angle related to mood or sleep quality.
  • [31:25] - Orion talks about her experience growing up in Israel and how it compares to typical food choices in the US.
  • [32:23] - How does Cassie convince people to eat more vegetables? Orion chimes in and offers a tip about starting your day with protein and fat instead of protein and carbs, which Cassie supports.
  • [36:20] - Cassie shares her new food addiction: rice tortillas by Food For Life.
  • [36:43] - Orion talks about her previous episode with Dave Asprey.
  • [37:38] - What are the bad fats that we should avoid? In her answer, Cassie emphasizes the importance of eating mindfully.
  • [40:38] - Cassie talks about the step in between eating a standard American diet and eating a completely clean, mindful diet. She recommends doing it one meal at a time.
  • [42:34] - There’s a lot of emotion tied to food and eating, Cassie points out, and weight gain is often a gradual process.
  • [43:20] - What kind of diet would Cassie recommend for a vegetarian? She talks about vegetarian diets (as a vegetarian herself), especially in light of the question of getting enough protein.
  • [46:45] - Cassie has been trying out going dairy-free, which she says is easy. She also says, however, that she hasn’t noticed feeling any different.
  • [49:14] - We learn more about the “wheel of wellness” and the “wheel of unwellness,” with Cassie giving us a way to visualize these wheels.
  • [52:56] - Cassie shifts into talking about the wheel of wellness, after a vivid description of the experience of being on the wheel of unwellness.
  • [55:21] - Orion asks Cassie for an inspirational success story of one of her clients, and the one Cassie shares certainly fits the bill.
  • [59:03] - Cassie shares her three tips for living a stellar life: 1. Do something active first thing in the morning every day. 2. Eat real food. 3. Find something every day that makes you laugh like crazy.
  • [60:42] - Inspired yet? If so, you’ll be glad to know that Stellar Life listeners have access to a special discount for the WOW Life Nutrition Program. Use promo code “stellar” to save $25 (normal price $199.00). For more information about the program, check out this link.

Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. Make a list of all of the negative terms you use about dieting and food, like “cheating” and “restriction.”
  2. For each negative word on your list, come up with two or three positive words. Consciously work on changing your phrasing to these positive terms.
  3. Set yourself a challenge of giving up all sugar for three weeks. During this time, observe your body and moods closely to see what a difference this makes.

Links and Resources:

Hashimoto’s thyroiditis
Rheumatoid arthritis
Sugar Blues
Wheat Belly
Rice tortillas by Food For Life.
Dave Asprey on Stellar LIfe Podcast

Jan 3, 2017

Mission #45

On Board: Dr. Sky Blossoms
Mission: Confidence & Having the Best Day Ever!

The Co-Pilot:

The lovely Dr. Sky Blossoms is a medically trained doctor and third-generation healer who grew up behind the Iron Curtain. As she explains in our conversation, this experience is part of what motivated her to achieve the life she has today as an award-winning author, spiritual leader, and celebrity advisor.

Sky puts a lot of emphasis on developing real, unshakable confidence, and has used her sensitive intuition to help hundreds of people to achieve this goal. This confidence has helped her clients transform their relationships, make more money, and even achieve a renewed zest for life. Through being featured on CBS, Fox News, ABC, and now Stellar Life, she has spread her wisdom and insight far beyond her private clients.

Connect With Sky:

Best Thing Ever
Dr. Sky Blossoms on LinkedIn
@BlossomsSky on Twitter
@Attractyourperfectwoman on Facebook

The Mission Log:

  • [04:49] - Sky starts us off by telling us a bit about who she is.
  • [06:11] - Was Sky born confident? Has she been confident all her life? Her answer gives insight into how confidence changes depending on how far you’ve grown into living boldly.
  • [07:22] - We hear about the problem with the idea of competing over a man, and why any man you would compete for is one you don’t want anyway.
  • [10:06] - Sky explains that abuse is a reflection of prior self-abuse, illustrating how our experiences and environment create profound effects on our later selves. She also discusses the importance of looking to others for examples of how to reach a better life, offering her own experience in the Soviet Union to demonstrate what she means.
  • [16:08] - High achievers and truly successful people get there by having the courage it takes to step up and do what is right for them, Sky explains.
  • [17:58] - Sky offers a reason why people with good intentions may hold you back: because by stepping outside of your comfort zone, you’re reminding them that they’re not.
  • [18:41] - What is confidence? Sky tells us about the two types of confidence: real and outsourced. She also mentions the book Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl and discusses how it relates to confidence.
  • [23:33] - Sky talks about what it means to own yourself, and explains that knowing yourself is the first step.
  • [25:27] - What does it feel like to own yourself and to own the room?
  • [26:53] - Using the example of games, Sky talks about inhabiting various avatars. She suggests noticing how differently you show up depending on who you’re with and the circumstances you’re in.
  • [29:37] - Orion asks whether one should try to be aware of their behavior in the moment, or to do it in retrospect. Sky encourages doing so in retrospect until you’ve had enough experience to do so in the moment.
  • [30:54] - What is Sky’s advice for a woman who feels a lack of confidence in dating or relationships? She emphasizes the need for healing your wounds.
  • [33:24] - Sky talks about how she uses her intuition to help each of her clients. She also touches on the challenge of achieving forgiveness.
  • [34:28] - We hear about where blocks to forgiveness come from, and what sorts of events and incidents can shape harmful or hurtful beliefs within ourselves. She gives the example of lying as a child, and how it can become a negative cycle.
  • [39:42] - People have more trouble forgiving themselves than others, even if they don’t realize it at first, Sky tells us.
  • [40:38] - Sky offers several more tips for confidence. Tip #1: Stop explaining yourself (this goes especially for women). She gives a powerful explanation for this tip.
  • [45:44] - Tip #2 is your body language. Holding a power pose for two minutes dramatically boosts your confidence level, she explains.
  • [47:18] - Tip #3 is focus. “Where your mind goes, energy flows,” Sky tells us. She emphasizes the importance of focusing on the positive side of anything rather than the dark or negative side.
  • [50:29] - Orion mentions Cesar Millan conducting an experiment that involved getting a scared dog to lift its head, and how this changed its personality completely. She goes on to talk about conditioning your mind to find the positive in life and other people.
  • [54:17] - Sky offers several wonderful tips for how a woman can feel stellar.
  • [55:52] - Sky generously offers Stellar Life listeners a gift; more details below!

A FREE Gift for our listeners:

Trigger Removal Toolkit
Most people don’t like being triggered. The truth is, however, as long as you have buttons, there will be people who’ll push them. And the only way to gain unshakable confidence and freedom is to heal your emotional wounds and dissolve your triggers.

Dr. Sky Blossoms’ Trigger Removal Toolkit is exactly what you need to re-wire your system and allow unconditional self-love, so that you can create deep and lasting relationships with others.

Trigger Removal Toolkit includes:
1. Training Video – “Understand Your Wiring”
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Your Pre-Flight Checklist:

  1. Commit to figuratively embracing other women in every environment, and focus on uniting with them rather than being drawn into competition.
  2. Resolve not to fight over a man. Any man you need to fight for probably isn’t one you want anyway; Mr. Right should claim you and be devoted to you.
  3. Look for examples of women whose lives are similar to what you aspire to, and use that as inspiration to rise above your current circumstances.

Links and Resources:

Best Thing Ever
Dr. Sky Blossoms on LinkedIn
@BlossomsSky on Twitter
@Attractyourperfectwoman on Facebook
Man’s Search for Meaning
Viktor Frankl
Harville Hendrix

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