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Jun 27, 2017

Nienke Van Bezooijen is our guest today. If you’re anything like most people, you probably feel nervous or anxious about speaking on stage or in public. Nienke is an international speaking coach who works with thought-leaders and change-makers to help them find their authentic selves and bring the world an authentic, clear, and effective message. She explains how your feelings are actually “your spirit waiting to break through.” She also shares incredible insight into how to discover your authentic self, why your posture matters even before your presentation begins, and why your reflection in the mirror is so incredibly important.

Connect With Nienke:
Nienke Van Bezooijen on Facebook
@SpeakersMentor on Twitter

The Mission Log:

  • [02:02] - Nienke starts things off by explaining what she does and how she helps people speak clearly and authentically. She then explains how she transitioned from being a nurse to what she does now.
  • [04:09] - One of the struggles people most often have with sharing their authentic voice comes from shyness or insecurity.
  • [06:17] - Nienke talks about how she prepares her speakers before they go on stage.
  • [09:07] - We hear two simple techniques for avoiding saying “umm…” mid-speech.
  • [11:55] - Orion brings us back to the topic of energy, explaining how this relates to work she’s done and emphasizing the importance of exercise. Nienke then offers her advice for energy.
  • [14:21] - One of Orion’s teachers told her not to eat meat the day before a presentation, Orion explains, and Nienke responds that this depends on what your individual body needs. They then discuss other pre-talk dietary choices.
  • [19:03] - Nienke talks about building up a relationship with your audience. Orion then shares an exercise from one of her mentors.
  • [21:56] - Orion has been going through an awakening lately, she explains, and talks about how she is blossoming into herself instead of forcing herself to fit into a small box. She and Nienke then talks about nerves (which are in fact “your spirit waiting to break through”) and dreams.
  • [25:02] - Orion brings up a recent conversation with a friend, comparing how Israelis and Americans communicate.
  • [26:46] - Does Nienke change herself for her audience (in terms of cultural norms) or is she just herself regardless of the audience? She and Orion discuss cultural norms in more depth as they relate to public speaking.
  • [30:42] - Nienke offers tips on how to get Dutch people warmed up as you’re giving a presentation.
  • [32:44] - Nienke digs deeper into the process of being your authentic self and explores what the “real you” is. She talks about several exercises that she leads clients through to help discover yourself and find confidence.
  • [35:56] - What is Nienke’s brag for the day? She answers, then he and Orion talk about the fact the fact that bragging is actually important.
  • [38:43] - Nienke talks about power poses, referencing the popular TED Talk by Amy Cuddy. Orion points out that hip circles are important as well; power poses get you into the dominant, male side, but hip circles bring out your feminine side, allowing you to integrate the two.
  • [40:36] - What’s so important about TED Talks, and why does Nienke like them so much?
  • [42:07] - There are three ways to get on the TED stage, Nienke tells us, and explains what they are. She then reveals why she has never considered giving a TED Talk of her own.
  • [44:52] - What are Nienke’s three top tips to living a stellar life? 1. Live your life by choice, not by circumstance. 2. Don’t rescue people. 3. Speak up (and start in front of a mirror if necessary).
  • [46:00] - Nienke suggests finding her at

Links and Resources:
Nienke Van Bezooijen on Facebook
@SpeakersMentor on Twitter
Bulletproof Brain Octane Oil
Deborah Torres Patel
Gal Gadot
Blair Singer
Little Voice Mastery
TED talk by Amy Cuddy
TED Talks
Chris Anderson
Global Institute for Extraordinary Women


Jun 20, 2017

Today, I have an amazing conversation with Certified Spiritual Healer Maria Kellis, who shares how to create miracles in our lives the same way she created miracles in her life. Marie was working in the fast paced startup world where she was burning the candle at both ends and letting stress envelop her life, when she got a huge wakeup call and ended up in a wheelchair. Learn how Marie turned her biggest challenge into her biggest gift as she made the decision of what her life was going to be.

Connect With Maria Kellis:
@LikeMariaKellis on Facebook
@mariakellis on Twitter

The Mission Log:

  • [02:02] - Maria shares a little bit about who she is and what she does.
  • [03:13] - How did Maria find herself in a wheelchair, as she mentioned a moment ago? She answers, then shares some of the lesson she learned from the experience.
  • [05:59] - Orion digs deeper into Maria’s pain, which was not only physical; her fiance left her during the experience.
  • [08:16] - In 2012, Maria had her biggest accident, which was also an enormous gift, as she describes here.
  • [10:02] - Orion talks about a recent conversation she had about a near-death experience. Maria then describes what she experienced.
  • [12:55] - After coming back from her incredible near-death experience, what is Maria’s relationship with time now?
  • [15:18] - Maria discusses whether she creates miracles through a time-space continuum. She then offers to share one of the “crazy” experiences that she has had.
  • [16:22] - God is an experience, not a concept, Orion explains. She then clarifies what she means.
  • [16:53] - Maria shares the experience that she offered a moment ago, explaining that she shifted reality while thinking she was in the dream world.
  • [19:00] - How can we create miracles in our lives, and experience our own leaps into a reality of infinite possibility?
  • [22:15] - Orion explores what Maria has been saying, clarifying details about faith and love.
  • [22:39] - Maria gives more detail on the first step of the process, which is clearing space by accepting that everything is perfect. She then shares an out-of-body experience she had.
  • [26:09] - Orion is studying Kabbalah, she reveals, then ties this into what Maria has been saying about her experience.
  • [27:18] - Maria talks more about human suffering and its role in our world. Suffering is balance, and is linked to threads that we sometimes can’t control.
  • [30:50] - We return to the topic of miracles, with Maria explaining what the keys to manifesting a miracle are and how they relate to vibrations.
  • [34:07] - Where can listeners find and connect with Maria?

Links and Resources:
@LikeMariaKellis on Facebook
@mariakellis on Twitter
Space-time continuum
Lucid dreaming
Nag Hammadi library
Dead Sea Scrolls
Vessel (in Kabbalah)
What Colliding Black Holes Sound Like

Jun 13, 2017

If you’re not familiar with the term, "Lose the Cape" is a podcast by two brave, modern moms: Alexa Bigwarfe and Aubrey Mathis. I had the pleasure of being a guest on their podcast, and have known ever since that they needed to be on this one! If you feel like it's time that you recognize your strengths, get yourself organized, and allow yourself to truly inhabit your potential, enjoy this chat with Alexa and Aubrey. They bring warmth and enthusiasm to their message about shedding expectations, growing into yourself, and embracing your own confidence.

Connect With Alexa and Aubrey:

Lose the Cape
@LoseTheCape on Facebook
@LosetheCape on Twitter
@losethecape on Instagram

The Mission Log:

  • [03:22] - We start off by learning a bit more about Alexa and Aubrey, with Alexia introducing herself first. Aubrey then takes her turn, explaining how she and Alexa connected.
  • [06:34] - Orion asks what Alexa and Aubrey got out of her interview on their podcast.
  • [07:39] - Alexa explains what “losing the cape” means to her. Aubrey then steps in, explaining how this relates to making Orion a good fit for their show.
  • [10:36] - How did Alexa and Aubrey lose the cape in their own lives? In both of their answers, they discuss finding confidence and stepping into their truer selves. Orion then shares some of her own life experiences and offers some inspiration.
  • [14:49] - Aubrey talks about how she experienced other people’s expectations and felt confined in a box. Alexa then relates her experiences, which are in some ways very different from Aubrey’s.
  • [18:10] - Alexa is glad that women are coming out of the closet in a sexual way, she reveals.
  • [19:37] - What is confidence, and what do women need to do to gain it? Aubrey, Alexa, and Orion all discuss the topic, offering their own insights and exploring the importance of having the right people around you.
  • [22:48] - Alexa and Aubrey discuss what moms struggle with the most. Alexa emphasizes the role of guilt in the typical mothering experience. Aubrey then draws out the topic of the fear that many mothers feel regarding their children.
  • [24:59] - Aubrey excuses herself, leaving Orion and Alexa to talk about the potential internal conflict of Alexa seeing herself in different ways and roles.
  • [27:05] - Orion points out that we tend to put ourselves in boxes or cages and just lock the door. Alexa then mentions her personal tragedy of having her infant daughter pass away, and explains how this helped her come to some important realizations.
  • [28:24] - Alexa talks about her tattoo that honors her late daughter, and in the process reveals the precocious wisdom of her 7-year-old daughter.
  • [30:18] - Alexa mentions a nonprofit she started and a book she wrote with 30 other moms and dads about all kinds of child loss.
  • [31:39] - Beyond her late daughter Kathryn, what inspires Alexa in everyday life?
  • [33:18] - Orion makes reference to a quote by Albert Einstein, and offers some words of wisdom to listeners.
  • [34:14] - We hear who a few of Alexa’s greatest mentors are.
  • [36:49] - Alexa briefly mentions being in the air force as an intelligence officer.
  • [37:57] - Does Alexa have any rituals or ways to organize her life that can benefit listeners? As she answers, she talks about the relief of minimalism and getting rid of stuff. Orion then recommends The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up
  • [41:18] - Alexa relates a story about having gone to New York last week and the freedom of packing lightly.
  • [42:07] - What are Alexa’s three tips to living a stellar life? 1. Don’t be afraid to try new things. 2. Laugh often. 3. Surround yourself with amazing people who lift you up and encourage you.
  • [42:51] - Where can people find Alexa and Aubrey?

Links and Resources:

Lose the Cape
@LoseTheCape on Facebook
@LosetheCape on Twitter
@losethecape on Instagram
Sunshine After the Storm by Alexa Bigwarfe
Today May Suck by Aubrey Mathis
Lose the Cape: Realities from Busy Modern Moms and Strategies to Survive
Lose the Cape: Never Will I Ever (and then I had kids!)
Channing Tatum
Tony Robbins
Albert Einstein
Michelle Obama
The Miracle Morning
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up
BookExpo America

Jun 6, 2017

Nick Cownie is an Australian mindset change expert, the author of 7 Minute Mindset, and an in-demand speaker, coach, and mentor to thousands of people across the world. As Nick explains, the seven things that most often prevent people from living the lives they want are all contained within the word FAILURE itself, and this is an easy way to remember and recognize them.He’s someone who has helped me personally with my mindset, and I’m excited for him to share his wisdom and insight with you today!

Connect With Nick:
Nick Cownie on LinkedIn
@NickCownie on Twitter
Nick Cownie on Facebook
Success Dynamics Institute

The Mission Log:

  • [02:54] - Nick starts things off by sharing a little about what he does. He also reveals the impact that the events that occurred the day after he turned 21 have had on his life path.
  • [06:38] - We learn more about how Nick dealt with his PTSD, and how this led him to get involved with neuro-linguistic programming (NLP).
  • [10:58] - What is the fast phobia cure from NLP? As he answers, Nick explains that this cure is also called visual-kinesthetic dissociation.
  • [13:47] - Nick goes into more depth about what he means by “fluff” in NLP, which he has just mentioned he finds to be a problem.
  • [15:55] - Most of Nick’s clients these days are people looking to dramatically increase the effectiveness of their sales team, he explains. He also reveals that you can trace almost any issue anyone has to one of two things: fear and feelings about (lack of) worthiness.
  • [21:06] - Nick points out that very few people are genuinely in a -10 scenario by the scale he has just been talking about. He then discusses how he helps people who are on the negative side of this scale.
  • [24:32] - Nick explains that there are seven things that people do that stop them from living the kind of life they want, which fit into the acronym FAILURE.
  • [25:01] - The first issue in the FAILURE acronym is fear. As he discusses this topic, Nick explores the difference between fear and anxiety.
  • [28:19] - The letter “A” in this acronym stands for attention displacement, which means that you’re putting your attention in the wrong place at the wrong time.
  • [29:53] - “I” stands for indecision. In explaining the role of indecision in not living the life you want, Nick shares a powerful quote: “Every decision should be made within the space of seven breaths.” He then reveals what an incredible difference this concept has made in his life. He and Orion then discuss the importance of exchanging value instead of getting things for free.
  • [37:27] - We’ve now reached the “L” in FAILURE, which is lack of action. The opposite habit of lack of action is not actually just action, but rather consistent action. In explaining this, he talks about making what he calls micro-commitments.
  • [41:50] - “U” stands for unrealistic expectations, which is particularly relevant now in the era of internet marketers. Nick and Orion discuss the Law of Attraction and the importance of taking action.
  • [45:25] - “R” is for repeating patterns. As Nick points out, all six points so far have been internal.
  • [46:08] - “E” stands for external negative influences, and is the first (and only) of the points that is about what happens to you through no doing of your own.
  • [48:28] - What are some quick things listeners can do to break through their own negative habits? The two ways that change happen are inside-out and outside-in, Nick explains. He then offers insight to help listeners immediately start breaking the FAILURE habits.
  • [56:06] - Nick offers his three top tips to living a stellar life. 1. Choose freedom. 2. Defy expectations. 3. Don’t die waiting.
  • [59:06] - Nick lists some ways people can find him online.

Links and Resources:
Nick Cownie on LinkedIn
@NickCownie on Twitter
Nick Cownie on Facebook
7 Minute Mindset
Success Dynamics Institute
Neuro-linguistic programming
Fast phobia cure
Visual-kinesthetic dissociation
Pattern Identification in Chinese medicine
Generative change
The Secret
The Law of Attraction
Dr. John Demartini on Stellar Life
Chris Cornell