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Jun 26, 2018

When it comes to your work in the world, you can’t spend too much energy worrying about being liked. When you’re operating in the role of a leader, odds are people will either love you, or won’t like you at all. Jeffrey Van Dyk joins me today to share this and many more insights into leadership. In our conversation today, we’ll talk more about leadership, as well as how to upgrade from a wound-driven operating system to a purpose-driven operating system, finding and connecting with your tribe, and how to bring who you truly are into your work and into your life.

Connect With Jeffrey:
Jeffrey Van Dyk on LinkedIn
@jeffreyvandyk on Twitter

The Mission Log:

  • [02:56] - Jeffrey starts off the conversation by telling us a little bit about himself.
  • [04:20] - Who are the people who have influenced Jeffrey the most as far as what he teaches today?
  • [08:17] - Orion shares her story of wanting to be liked when she came to the United States after spending several years in Japan.
  • [09:56] - Jeffrey ties what Orion has been saying into the concepts of magnetism and marketing.
  • [15:32] -- If we stay on the surface level of the drama of struggling against ourselves, we can stay stuck there for years, Jeffrey points out.
  • [19:02] - All of our wounds have both an expiration date and a purpose, Jeffrey explains, and explores how he reacted to his own wounds.
  • [22:12] - Jeffrey points out that there’s a void that occurs when something is painful and it doesn’t make sense.
  • [24:23] - We learn more about how our wound-driven operating system works, and that it’s fueled by reactivity.
  • [28:12] - Jeffrey explains what he meant by saying that what used to be purposeful can become poison.
  • [31:16] - We hear about Jeffrey’s experience with his parents when he was young.
  • [33:45] - How do you clean out your emotional wounds?
  • [37:01] - Jeffrey talks about moving from a wound-driven operating system to a purpose-driven operating system.
  • [40:44] - We hear about a few specific sessions and conversations that Jeffrey has had with clients.
  • [42:56] - Orion talks about the shadow work that she does with her clients.
  • [44:19] - What are Jeffrey’s three top tips for living a stellar life? #1. Grace, and remembering that there is a redemptive love in the world. #2. If you feel alone or like you don’t belong, recognize that you do have a tribe. #3. Realize that it’s not all work.
  • [47:01] - Orion reveals that she just came back from Budapest, and points out that she has achieved a lot just because she took some time to have fun.
  • [47:35] - Where can people find and connect with Jeffrey?

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Jun 19, 2018

Lisa Shield posted her first online profile when online dating was still considered taboo. She went on a hundred first dates, one after another, over the course of the next two years. Finally, she met and married the love of her life. 16 years later, she still describes herself as one of the happiest women on the planet. Her success led her to become one of the first dating and relationship coaches in the nation. She’s a sought-after relationship expert who loves helping couples and singles use their emotional nakedness to attract and keep a life partner.

Connect With Lisa:

Lisa Shield
@LisaShield on Twitter
Lisa Shield on Facebook
Lisa Shield on LinkedIn
Lisa Shield on Yelp

The Mission Log:

  • [03:26] - Lisa talks a bit about herself and how she got to the point where she is today as a love coach.
  • [06:54] - We learn that Lisa’s first husband, who she was with for 13 years, was a pathological liar.
  • [08:14] - When Lisa started coaching, no one else was doing it and she had to do it on her own.
  • [08:34] - What does Lisa think has changed the most between the time she started coaching and now?
  • [10:38] - Lisa talks about whether people are commitment-phobic these days.
  • [12:32] - Orion shares the story of finding her own soulmate, and the total surrender involved in the process.
  • [15:23] - Lisa brings us into the world of a 40-year-old single lady in the big city, whose competition is the young girls, who hangs out with married friends with kids.
  • [20:02] - When you have such a fixed idea of what you think you need, you shut yourself off from possibilities that you haven’t even considered.
  • [23:41] - Lisa shares her thoughts on women who live more in their masculine energy.
  • [27:46] - What are some of Lisa’s top tips for dating?
  • [30:49] - When you meet your soulmate and really fall in love, you’ll never have enough time with him, Lisa explains.
  • [33:45] - Lisa’s work is called “emotionally naked dating,” she reveals, and talks about the process that she walks her clients through.
  • [35:15] - What are some ways of communication that don’t sound needy or desperate?
  • [37:40] - Lisa describes some destructive behaviors.
  • [41:48] - We hear about Lisa’s rules for sleeping with guys, including her theory that you need to share your head before you share your bed.
  • [44:40] - What is “good company” for a man? In her answer, Lisa emphasizes the importance of mirroring a man’s masculinity back to him.
  • [47:21] - Orion shares a tradition that she and her husband do every night before bed.
  • [49:08] - Lisa talks about how she brings the agreement of not taking anything personally into her relationship.
  • [53:35] - What are LIsa’s three top tips to living a stellar life? #1. Do not quit until you find your man. #2. Grow, grow, grow. #3. Gratitude. Be grateful.
  • [56:53] - Where can listeners find Lisa to learn more or work with her?

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Jun 12, 2018

My incredible guest and partner in this conversation about sex is Kongit Farrell, a licensed marriage, family, and sex therapist who specializes in helping people get the healthy lives, lasting love, and great sex they deserve. Kongit originally focused on helping women have the best possible lives and relationships before she transitioned to sex therapy. Whether or not you’re currently in a relationship, this episode is packed with good information that you need to know.

Connect With Kongit:

Kongit Farrell
@KongitFarrell on Twitter
Kongit Farrell on Instagram
@KongitFarrell on Facebook

The Mission Log:

  • [03:18] - Kongit talks about sex therapy, explaining that it’s very normal and not taboo.
  • [04:11] - How did Kongit get into sex therapy?
  • [05:40] - We hear about some of the most common complaints that people share with Kongit.
  • [07:55] - Kongit talks about when couples decide they need sexual therapy, and what it generally looks like.
  • [10:26] - Does Kongit believe that the majority of sexual pleasure is in the mind?
  • [15:45] - Kongit responds to what Orion has been saying about Jaiya’s blueprints.
  • [18:51] - Kongit shares a story of where the things she and Orion have been talking about have saved a relationship.
  • [22:47] - We hear Kongit’s response to Orion’s journey to discovering her feminine, sensual self.
  • [25:07] - How does Kongit help her clients connect to their own sensual selves?
  • [27:19] - In Cuba, women feel very desirable regardless of age or weight, Orion points out.
  • [28:56] - Kongit points out one of the great gifts of being a therapist: you see a side of life that most people don’t see.
  • [31:27] - Kongit adds a couple of points to what Orion was saying about women in Cuba a moment earlier.
  • [34:17] - How would Kongit approach an older woman who feels less sensual or desirable than she used to be?
  • [36:54] - Orion shifts the conversation to the more physical side of things.
  • [40:31] - Kongit reiterates something she mentioned earlier: there are solutions for almost any sexual struggle now.
  • [41:28] - How can people voice their desires more?
  • [47:07] - Kongit points out that someone sharing their fantasy with you is incredibly intimate and means that they trust you deeply.
  • [47:57] - What advice does Kongit have for igniting passion in a relationship?
  • [49:13] - What are Kongit’s three top tips for living a stellar life? #1. Live with intentionality. #2. Live with compassion. #3. Be ethical and have integrity with how you treat people.
  • [50:35] - Kongit talks about where listeners can find her online.

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Jun 5, 2018

Adam Markel is a transformational teacher, success coach, motivational speaker, and author. He guides people all over the world to live authentically, purposefully, and powerfully from their hearts. He dedicates himself to helping others make equally profound pivots and live at their best. This awareness gives us the option to challenge our mindset and stop playing the game of life on defense. This is one of the most powerful mental changes you can make. The fear or discomfort with change is the root cause of many of the problems we endure.

Connect With Adam Markel:

Adam Markel
Adam Markel on Facebook
@adammarkel on Twitter
Adam Markel on LinkedIn

The Mission Log:

  • [03:17] - Adam starts off the conversation by sharing a bit about himself, and sharing the story of the day that convinced him to change his life.
  • [09:08] - We learn that Adam’s reaction to being given a reprieve was giving a name to the source of that reprieve.
  • [13:08] - Orion has pivoted many times in her life, she explains. She then shares a story that illustrates that many people are okay with living a mediocre life.
  • [15:03] - How does Adam influence people to create change in their lives?
  • [17:27] - Adam makes a powerful point that in most cases, the root cause of many challenges is a discomfort with change, or unwillingness to change.
  • [20:11] - We learn about one of the reasons that most of us don’t embrace change.
  • [22:28] - What was Adam’s process to finding his true calling? In his answer, he points out that when you know what you don’t want, you also know what you do want.
  • [26:27] - Orion brings up the work of Esther and Abraham Hicks, and their points about contrast.
  • [27:37] - Adam digs into the idea of identity, as well as pivoting into different identities.
  • [33:33] - What are some tools that Adam recommends for listeners that can create a shift in identity?
  • [36:29] - Adam talks about how important it is to be present in each moment as your authentic self.
  • [37:54] - We hear about one of the elements in Adam’s book Pivot: resilience. He talks about the three steps in the resilience process.
  • [43:58] - The third step in Adam’s resilience process takes at least 21 days to form a habit, and involves saying “I love my life” three times every day when you wake up or get up.
  • [45:15] - Adam offers Stellar Life listeners a free gift! You can get your gift by going to this link.

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