What do men really want? If you’re single or have recently been dating in today’s modern world, you have probably asked yourself this question as you deal with the seemingly ever present flakiness and lack of commitment that men seem to have.
Yet the real question that you should consider is, what do you want in a man? And once you figure that out, visualize it, and most importantly, believe that you deserve it, you’ll find that you will be able to surpass all the lame dating experiences as you realize to not take ‘rejection’ personally when they were never the right fit for you anyway.
I often tell my clients, you have to work on yourself internally to become the woman who is going to attract the man of her dreams. It’s not about changing yourself fundamentally, it’s more about changing your perception of the love you deserve by healing your past traumas. My guest today, Mark Rosenfeld, has gone from awkward virgin geek in high school, to stripper, to finally a world renowned relationship coach who shares today how you can make the right person yours.
Life happens for you, not to you. When things are not going your way, it can be comforting to take the easy way out and blame everything and everyone else for your problems and stress. And while there are people who will hurt you, or things that happen that are beyond your control, that just plainly seem so unfair, or cruel, these facts of life are always going to be there - it’s what you do about them that matters.
You owe it to yourself to have the self confidence and self love to make sure your needs are getting met. Regardless of the ups and downs of life, it really is up to you to roll with the punches and make the best out of your life as possible. It’s up to you to have the foresight to realize that there is a lesson in every hardship - it’s the gift with the bow on the bottom. You can’t see it yet, but if you are open to receiving the message, you’ll get it soon enough.
With all that being said, I know it’s not easy to develop mindfulness and self-awareness, which are the pathways to forgiving, and healing your life. Life will continue to happen, and the good news is, you are totally in control of how you handle what comes your way, the good and the bad. All it takes is a little training on how to do this. My guest today actually trains and coaches others on how to develop their personal well-being through mindfulness. She has an incredible life story of her own that you’ll surely find inspiration and might just be the key to start you own healing journey.
Being vulnerable can be risky - but wouldn’t you agree that it’s the risks in life that make life worth living? If you never venture into the unknown, if you let yourself be held back by fear, I bet there are many things in your life that will pass you buy, when they could have changed the course of your destiny forever.
Vulnerability exposes the most inner truths of ourselves and for that reason, many people equate vulnerability with weakness. But being vulnerable is actually a sign of bravery - you are risking the most fragile parts of yourself, knowing well that you could get hurt by rejection, shame, or ridicule, but you do it anyway. And at the end of the day, you want to live a life of no regrets, and not look back on what you didn't do, because you were too afraid.
Many of my clients are strong, independent women who have trouble with the idea of vulnerability when it comes to relationships. They are alpha females who have been hurt in the past, who feel that wearing their heart on their sleeve is putting their emotional well-being at risk. But it’s precisely this risk, that of being vulnerable, which is the only way you can forge a deep connection with your soulmate. My guest today, David Wood, built the largest coaching business on the web, and joins me today to share how his personal life path has inspired his innate ability to help people live an open life, with no regrets.
You can be the architect of your life. It all starts when you accept responsibility for everything that has happened to you - the good and the bad - and decide that you are going to live empowered by it all, not victimized. When you reach that level of consciousness of how the world, and its infinite amount of energy works, you can tap into a higher realm.
You are incredibly vulnerable to the energy around you. Surround yourself with positive people, and you will see a change in your disposition. When you are feeling down, a simple joke or something that makes you laugh can wake your spirit up. Allow yourself to align your heart and mind, and commit to living authentically and from the heart, doing what makes you happy and serves others.
When I coach my relationship clients towards finding the man of their dreams, they understand that it’s more than just willing someone to appear on a white horse and swoop them away. A big part does involve putting out into the universe the type of relationship you want, but it’s also being more open and vulnerable, and letting that special person into your life through trust and an open mind. Tamara Dorris, a university professor and author of 20 books, is an expert on manifestation, and on today’s episode she shares how you can do this despite all the daily distractions that we allow to occupy our mind.
For many people, there is a sort of skepticism when it comes to the “woo-woo” concepts of manifesting your destiny. Ever since The Secret came out, there was a group of people, led my questionable “coaches” who really believed that they could will a “magic check” into their lives.
But the law of manifestation, of attraction, doesn’t work so easily. Otherwise, we’d all be writing big fat checks to ourselves. The law of attraction really only works when you combine it with action. It’s more than just thinking positive, it’s getting up off your butt and actually doing, not just dreaming.
Because of the popularity of The Secret, there were many coaches out there who sold false hopes to people desperate to change their lives. And today on my show, I have an incredible coach who admits to doing just that but has done a 360-degree turn in his life once he realized that self-help was just that - you need to want to change from within, and be willing to put in the work yourself. David Essel joins me today in an honest and open episode that will surely shock you with his guru confessions.